Enjoy Stress Free Relationships
Does it feel like totally stress free relations are impossible? Your ultimate health and wellness depends on how you see and react to others.
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Nothing is more stressful than difficult relationships. Yet - nothing is easier to fix! You may never have been shown how to do it - few know how easy it is. If you want to enjoy ALL others - no exceptions - you're in the right place. This guide will show you exactly how to do it. Are you stressed after social (or family) gatherings? |
Some relationships are really tough.  You can improve even the worst of them- at least for yourself. |
Have you noticed that some seem to get along with everyone? Here's how they do it. You can Focus on appreciation and gratitude for the good fortune you all share in each others company. The best get-togethers are those spent with loved ones and sharing favorite foods, and simple moments.
"We probably wouldn't worry
about what people think of us
if we could know
how seldom they do."
Olin Miller
Its easy to forget how much you care and rely on others, and how much changes in a year. Gatherings are a good time to revisit each person in your circle of significant others and see who they really are now - today, and who you are in relation to them.
Do you take relationships for granted?
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Do you overlook the happiness and comfort you enjoy from the nicest ones?  Good relations take time and patience - and the reward? A happy life of sharing with others. |
Are others important to you? |
When you find right relationship with others, you find it within yourself.
Attitudes are choices you make. You do not have to wait for them to improve. You need only improve your Attitude about them. No one needs to change for you to be happy: Only you need to change.
For instant stress relief in relating to others - see them in a new way. Your peace of mind and happiness depends on it.
Change your mind and you change your relationships
Your viewpoint is the only thing you can change so start there. Do you always love your family and friends? Even the ornery ones? Some are tough, aren't they? Yet its possible to end conflicts with others, enjoy them, and ignore what you don't like.
“Everything that irritates us
about others can lead us to
an understanding of ourselves.”
Carl Jung
That is not "approval" of what you don't like.
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Its instead ignoring and not participating in what another chooses that is not right for you. That is the quick path to stress free relations. There really isn't another choice that will make you happy. Here's why. Stress and inherited genetic patterns. Stress is both "wanting and resisting" at the same time. You want loving relationships and fun with others, but may fear, disapprove or dislike certain traits in many of them. You can shift from disapproval to approval quicker than you
imagine simply by seeing that it is the process in your mind that is
annoying you.
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Even the nicest ones can be downright annoying at times.  If you Focus on what you do like, changing the subject or situation - you'll all benefit. The trick is, "You gotta' be smarter than the worst of 'em!" |
"Let us be of good cheer,
remembering that the misfortunes
hardest to bear are those
which will never happen."
James Russel
All human behavior is genetic: Your fears and anxiety are not only about the situation "now." You inherited those fears and attitudes, along with all your behavior.
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You wouldn't bother disliking others except that you feel threatened. Others can't interfere with you. Your resistance and annoyance of them is bringing out the worst in both of you -- and that's what is interfering with you. Whatever you experience is attracted to you by what you feel. You feel what you tell yourself to feel. If you are expecting annoying traits you find them. If you are expecting a fun time you find it. What are you telling yourself? |
There's nothing here to fear.  If you feel anxious you won't feel safe - even when you are. |
Fearful attitudes are only habits.
Fear is an old genetic family habit of feeling threatened from your
ancestors experiences of many generations ago. Its only a habit --
nothing more.
Once you feel fearful, you look for a reason and find one, blaming another for what you are feeling. It could be otherwise. That cycle can not make you happy.
It's exactly the same as an alcoholic blaming drinking on a situation or person and not on their addiction to a dysfunctional habit.
Fear is a trap that clouds reason and always leads to stress and frustration. So what do you tell yourself? Complaining, judgmental, annoyed? If you see in others what you don't like - you'll get more of that.
Your attention to it is drawing it out. Then you resist them, and they resist you...and you feel worse, and so do they....hmmmm, no one is going to enjoy this encounter, right? Not good!
Instant stress relief: Love and right-relationships with others.
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Why not enjoy the differences in others and appreciate a point of view - not your own?  If everyone around you thinks and talks the same - there's not much "thought" going on, is there? Contrasting viewpoints are the spice of creativity. Indulge in differences, and enjoy them to the fullest. |
You are doing it, so you can stop it. Break that habit today. Switch - take one quick step - to unconditional (means - no conditions) total acceptance. Sound big? Its not. Its easy. Simply create a new habit to replace the old fearful one.
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You just did not know that was an option. Do that for yourself (not them) so you feel good.
It's a simple mechanical process-
- A fear triggers an emotion-you feel bad.
- You react (old habit) blaming them-stop it!
- Change to the new habit of accepting them: one quick step.
- Find something you do like about them...that makes you smile...
- Concentrate on it until you do smile -
- And repeat it - until it sticks.
- It's working when you think of them and smile - no matter what.
The fact is that your condemnation of what you don't like keeps you stuck in it. It enlarges it and attracts others to play in it with you.
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Gossip and finding fault excludes you from joyful supportive friendships. Loyal friends don't gossip or blame, do they?  Being mean to another attracts those experiences back to you - and then you blame more and feel worse than ever. Only you can stop it....and stop listening to others too. You do know that, "You'll be next" - don't you? |
You're using your attracting power to feel miserable. Gossip, judgment and blaming are genetic social games that damage friendships and your peace of mind. Only you keep it alive, and you can stop it. The fact is they do not have the power to make you feel bad. You do it to yourself subconsciously from old fears and habits. Good news! You are doing it: You can stop it.
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Accepting others - as they are - is stress-free relating.
Simply choose two or more traits you do like and then train yourself to only see and expect that.
Just like you'd train yourself to play the piano: Practice. Or not. Now you know you are doing it, can you really continue it, bring out the worst in someone - and not laugh?
Is this an "....ah HA! moment?" Just like you do not eat poisoned food, cut out of your mind ideas that poison your relationships --like fear, judgement, and disapproval.
Living stress free is a choice you make.
Why not spend time loving and sharing?
Your relations with others are telling you about you.
How
you love is intimately connected to your sense of self-worth: you are
as willing to love your self as you are willing to love others. Or not.
Develop the habit of appreciating yourself and your talents and you'll find it easy to appreciate others.
Ignore the annoying traits of others and you'll overlook your own and very soon they will be a non-issue.
"If you happen to find yourself,
you have a mansion which
you can inhabit with dignity
all the days of your life."
James Michener
Find yourself - you are what you love and enjoy
Your passions lift you out of the range of fear and strife. Loving yourself is easy to do: Make a list of 20 things you love about yourself and at least five things you admire about yourself. Reading about it wont help you. Get a pen, and get with the program and write it out - now. You can't get to "stress-free" without it.
"Know what you want
and all the universe
conspires to help you achieve it."
Paulo Coelho
These are your "seed talents" and the basis of your relations with others, and your own "Self-worth" and the foundation of you loving YOU.
Until you do love you, no one else can. Know why?
Giving and Receiving are the Same.
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You know when someone loves you. You can feel it and see it.  There's no "make nice" or faking it - everyone knows the truth - why not live in the truth of loving others? It's easy to do. |
What you give out you get back - life is your "mirror." Your attitudes and expectations are "attracting" your experiences: do you see how changing you - will change everything? Give it a try. You have nothing to lose but strife and unhappiness. Karma is an old idea that's been around forever- Life is like a boomerang - "What goes around, comes around." Imagine you are throwing a ball - it hits a wall ...and the experience you put out - comes back.
And Law of Attraction matches it all up.
Your happiness depends on one thing: YOU. No one can tell you what to think or feel or expect - it's all about you, you, you. |
Give yourself the gift of unconditional love.
Loving is always and ONLY up to you.
- If others aren't appreciating you - appreciate yourself more.
- If others don't listen to you - listen more.
- If no one is kind enough - be kinder to others - and to yourself.
- If you want to be happy, find things that make you happy and do them.
- If you want others to be happy: Get over it. It's an inside job. They have to choose it - just like you do.
- Your happiness can't depend on others. It's all about you: No matter what.
- Find something to appreciate in your friends, or find other friends. They don't need fixing and neither do you.
That gift will free your creative power to get more of what you love.
Its the best gift you can give to your family and loved ones. Your
happiness is all up to you.
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Stress
Quotes
Relief &
Humor
"Worrying is like
a rocking chair,
it gives you
something to do,
but it gets you
nowhere."
Glenn Turner
"Stress is
the trash of
modern life -
we all generate it
but if you don't
dispose of it
properly, it will
pile up and
overtake your
life."
Danzae Pace
"Our doubts
are traitors, and
make us lose
the good we oft
might win, by
fearing to
attempt."
William Shakespeare
If things
go wrong,
don't go
with them."
Roger Babson
"The way
you treat yourself
sets the standard
for others."
Sonya Friedman
"Only man clogs
his happiness
with care,
destroying what
is with thoughts
of what may be."
John Dryden
"Silence is
the great teacher,
and to learn
its lessons
you must pay
attention to it.
There is
no substitute
for the creative
inspiration,
knowledge, and
stability that come
from knowing how
to contact your
core of inner
silence."
Deepak Chopra
"What great thing
would you attempt
if you knew
you could not
fail?"
Robert Schuller
"The ability
to be in the
present moment is
a major component
of mental wellness."
Abraham Maslow
"Courage
is the power
to let go of
the familiar."
Raymond Lindquist
"Anxiety is
a thin stream
of fear trickling
through the mind.
If encouraged,
it cuts a channel
into which all
other thoughts are,
drained."
Arthur Somers Roche
"If we all
did the things
we are capable
of doing,
we would
literally astound
ourselves."
Thomas Edison
"There are people
who are always
anticipating
trouble,
and in this way
they manage
to enjoy many
sorrows that
never really
happen to them."
Josh Billings
"Heavy thoughts
bring on physical
maladies;
when the
soul is oppressed
so is the body."
Martin Luther
"Whatever humans
have learned
had to be learned
as a consequence
only of trial
and error
experience.
Humans have
learned only
through mistakes."
Buckminster Fuller
"Confidence comes
not from always
being right but
from not fearing
to be wrong."
Peter McIntyre
“The most beautiful
thing we can
experience is the
mysterious.
It is the
source of all
true art and
science.”
Albert Einstein
“If you ask
what is the single
most important
key to longevity,
I would have
to say it is
avoiding worry,
stress and tension.
And if you
didn't ask me,
I'd still have
to say it.”
George Burns